An integral part of life, is also a mistake. Some people cannot admit their mistake and do not let the facts confuse them. These people are frustrated and even angry. Behind this behavior are deeper reasons than seem to be on the surface.
We are all sinners in smaller or larger everyday mistakes, which can be lived in peace with. On the other hand, there are mistakes that can come at a heavy cost: talking on the cellphone or sending a message while driving, taking financial risks that look like a gamble in the first place to failure, showing disloyalty to a significant person, etc.
Most of us do not mean to be wrong and do not do it maliciously. Sometimes mistakes can be learned, corrected and improved. In general, it is an emotional experience, which is not always pleasant. The thing is how to make a mistake. There are those who will take responsibility and hurry to admit. While others will admit half-heartedly and implicitly wrong – they have difficulty admitting, nevertheless they will admit and correct what is possible.
On the other hand, there are those who vehemently refuse to admit their mistake, even with unequivocal and absolute proof. These people will insist that they are not wrong and the others are the ones who misinterpret them and have qzz in your life.
Moreover, they will fight for their righteousness while being convinced and persuaded that the mistake is not theirs and wronged them. This person will try to change reality and create a picture that fits his inner reality. This behavior is one of the crucial stumbling blocks in spousal, parental, family and interpersonal relationships.
The question arises, what is the emotional mechanism that does not allow recognition of error, even when things are clearly beyond doubt? How does this behavior repeat itself? Why is it hard to admit a mistake?
The answer to that is related to the structure of personality and sense of self. There are some people who have a vulnerable ego, low self-esteem, and a rigid defense mechanism. They cannot bear the thought and possibility that they are wrong from time to time. Posting accidentally will undermine their personality. It is a place where rigid protective mechanisms come into action and prevent the person from admitting his mistake. The person will distort and change reality to make it passable and less threatening to him. The role of the defense mechanisms in this case is to preserve the fragile ego by changing the facts and adapting them (unconsciously) to a story that allows it to carry on without feeling guilty or failing in the face of its error. He will deal with proving how wrong he is and everyone is guilty or misunderstood. Moreover, they will underestimate and underestimate the other and the facts he presents.
Seemingly, man seems to be unable to undermine his confidence and high self-esteem – he always knows everything and all the time – traits that those people tend to associate with power and power. In fact, the opposite is true. They are not full of power and intensity but stiffness and emotional difficulty in the environment. Sometimes, fear of being hurt by their self-image adds to that. The result may be an aggressive reaction to those who feel that they are invading their personal space and trying to undermine it.
Their vulnerability is great, do not feel that they have permission on their own to make a mistake. A kind of perfectionism and narcissism. This behavior may be due to childhood under severe and constant criticism from the immediate environment, especially the parents.
Wrong picture that man’s insistence on his justification stems from a position of power, self-confidence from Perez, contempt for others, etc. While the reasons for barely admitting mistakes are due precisely to the opposite reasons: rigid and defensive, the lack of emotional forces to deal with the fact that they were wrong.
It is difficult to live and connect with a person who cannot admit his mistakes, especially when each party stands up and thinks it is right for him to do some kind of justice. But when we understand that things are due to weakness and not strengthening, it may be easier to see the human side of the behavior behind the search for solutions that will improve the relationship. Another option is to contact and help with treatment.